Why is it socially unacceptable to have certain set of meaningful activities one participates in with their dates / partners? For example, I love coworking dates or boardgame exchange dates. Gladly, most people I date understand that it's normal, but I have a strong setiment from many people which can be exemplified as follows:
— You do fun projects with all your dates! You're such a weirdo.
vs
— You go to restaurants with all your dates! You're so normal.
Opinions?
@jonn
Not an answer but...
My question is this:
Why are people reviewing and judging your dating activities?
If you enjoy certain activities and your partner feels the same, why is that an issue. It's no one's business what you do on a date.
@Snowshadow I got this sentiment (I presume, not unlike @noodlemaz) while actively dating. Not from everyone, but I would say, from people who are more likely than not fall into "normie" category. Then I extrapolated this observation a bit.
I am being upfront now saying something along the lines of "I like doing and often do creative stuff as part of dating" to set expectations.
My point here is that it's not the fault of people I date to be freaked out by something that isn't considered to be normal.
I actually have a hypothesis — "meaningful" activities tend to be reserved for people we are closer to, so it's weird.
And another one — doing the same "meaningful" activities as "the other people" feels like the dates are commoditised.
@Snowshadow @jonn people you've started dating recently are not your closest people.
And doing activities can be quality time?!?!
@noodlemaz @jonn If they are someone you have been dating a long time they can be your closest ones.
And why not activities for quality time? Having fun with people is quality time.
@Snowshadow @jonn the second part is what I was trying to say
@noodlemaz Oh, thanks for clarifying that. (The question marks confused me.)
@jonn
@jonn But it is "normal" to set aside quality time, to schedule it with the people you are closest. Not doing so is actually abnormal, esp. in this day in age when everyone is so busy.@noodlemaz