@coffeegeek I um... I'm really sorry to say, but it sounds like a skill issue. I assume that you aren't too technical, so you'll have to simply believe me when I say that – it's not normal, you should migrate to another hosting provider and/or publishing technology.
@juandesant just to be clear – same issue being "posting a link to their website on fediverse brings down their website"?
@jonn yes. Every time this user made a blog post, their self-hosted Wordpress-based site was brought down for around five minutes every time they linked to that new post, to the point that they were already telling their audience this would happen, and be patient. And sure enough, after around ~5 min the site would be available again.
@juandesant my comment stands then, there is nothing wrong with getting a 1000 requests per second, computers make like a zillion computations every second, they should be able to... Render HTML based on some DB values *trivially* even under a tenfold load.
@jonn i don’t disagree. What I am saying is that this is a common enough pattern for newcomers to fall into that it might be worth understanding what to do.
@jonn @coffeegeek I know that other people that have tried even to self-host their mastodon servers have had the same issue, so even if it might be the fault of the particular setup, it is something that for those setups always happens.
Mitigating that will also benefit those with better setups, so maybe @Gargron can shed some light on this particular issue.